I still remember when I told a classmate back in high school that I would apply to university and study music, and she told me “You’ll never get in”. It didn’t bother me because I’m someone who believes in chasing your dreams and your passion. I got into university at the time, and it’s certainly true – you can do anything you set your mind to. A beautiful mind is one that doesn’t feel jealousy towards others, but raises them up and applauds them. I feel the need to write this because I feel that is happening more commonly among women, where some people feel the need to tear others down in order to feel better.
Thinking back, it is a reflection of herself in that she didn’t have confidence within, which means when treating others, she wouldn’t have that confidence in them. That’s why it’s important to build a desire and habit of thinking of self-love, because often when people put others down, it’s because they are hurting or feeling a certain sadness or anger inside. I watched a film called Ernest & Celestine, and it was one of the sweetest films I’ve watched since watching Amelie. There’s beauty in having faith and kindness towards others and believing in them no matter how different you are.
Many people put down others to make them feel as sad or unhappy as they feel, in order to feel better about themselves. It’s a terrible cycle because in the end it just spreads negativity, and the person themselves won’t truly feel happy. Raising others up is a sign of love and care, the kind our loved ones give us when we were learning something for the first time. They encourage, motivate and believe in you. That energy can really push you to strive to succeed and achieve your goals, which is why it’s important to surround yourself with people who are a positive influence.
When we raise people up, we are also raising ourselves up. Words of encouragement inspire self-improvement, and all of us have space to get better and better at many things. However, when we push people down, we push ourselves down as well. We swim in an ocean of negativity and unhappiness by focusing on things that have no value. If you push others down, you are failing yourself. Be happy for others success in life, because when we build comparisons we also build walls between people. Everyone hits rock bottom in periods of their lives, but we can all lend a hand to pull them back up.
Art by Yelena Bryksenkova